Psychology - A needed skill for Effective Leadership

Psychology - A needed skill for Effective Leadership

Psychology is a required skilled required for People who aspire to be leaders or people who claim to be leaders.

Evaluate your Leadership Skills

It is my personal experience, many people in leadership positions lack this skill. It becomes more apparent that people in Leadership role ask themselves the following questions

1. Have you asked people you mentor time to time - How are they doing? Are they doing good at professional or personal life?

2. Have captured every opportunity to appreciate them for doing anything good?

3. Have you been candid to give very very specific feedback for good and bad observations about them?

4. Do you remember on the top of your mind, what their aspirations are and where are you with helping them reach there?

5. Have you developed a relationship with them, where they are free to let off their steam(anger, frustration) at you? Believe me this is also one of the responsibilities when you lead people

6. Can you describe your people uniquely in a creative and appreciative manner at spur of the moment, say you are introducing them to others?

7. More Important, Do you?

8. Have you taken time to write a truthful recommendation for them?

9. Do you respect people, Who do what is asked of the? They may be rated as average in their appraisal or would not get highest of raises. But do you acknowledge and respect their wish to live life in that manner

10. Do your people feel like sharing good things in their life? Do they come and share things with you themselves?

Now these are only few of dozens more questions you should ask yourself, if you call yourself as a leader.

Things to do for becoming a better leader

If you want to become a better people's person, here is what I would really recommend

1. Be able to uniquely and creatively introduce your people to people they don't know. The quality of how you introduce your people actually shows, how much respect and admiration you have for them. Practice, Practice and Practice

2. Be sure you stop and talk to your people regularly, more important stop and listen to them more. Talks which happens in corridors, near coffee machines are more important than what goes inside a meeting room.

3. Take very opportunity to appreciate, especially personal things. Some one is wearing a good shirt and really looks good in it, appreciate, you observe their attitude towards life, appreciate it. Its important to catch the smaller things than the larger ones. If you have difference of opinion or dislike a person, especially find things to appreciate.

4. Instant rewards, could be anything. Any Rewards and Acknowledging itself is one of the biggest motivator, even more than money. Treat your people, if needed spoil them. Remember everyone needs to feel special, cared for. Do that much and people will shower you with their trust, hardwork and love. I have seen it first hand, when this happens, being around such people itself is a big reward in life

5. Always remember conversations you had with people. Even if you can't do much about it. Just recalling them and stating you remember and have taken a small step towards itself helps. Nothing is more satisfying when I know my mentor remembers what matters to me.

6. Earn Respect by being good at what you do. If you are a leader who wants to gather people around and make them sit around in professional world, All the best. People in the professional world want a leader who can point to a place and say “That’s where we want to go”. That’s the nature of professional world. People in Spiritual world would say otherwise “Where are you going? sit here and be still” and yes that is right for them.

Well there are dozen more things I can write.

So where does Psychology come into picture here?

Understand Circles

Psychology wise the basic thing in all above is Circle of influence/ego. In Psychology Ego is used in the rawest form, so if you don't like it use a nicer word instead. We have layers of circles around us.

1. Thoughts

2. Body

3. Family

4. Friends

5. Works People

6. Religion/Cast/Region/Classes/Jobs

7. State

8. Country

9. Continent



Human Nature

Human being would in general works towards

1. Attracting people within their circles by providing more

2. Making people jealous outside their circle

Take a moment and think about it, no matter how raw it may sound, recollect your past around the above statement

Entering People’s Circle

The key is you enter people's circles subconsciously not consciously. That is why most people do not get why someone else is being more popular or liked than themselves. More true when you want to be in the circle of your boss, or you are in a leadership position and you are clueless of why people still like their old mentors or other mentors than you.

The easiest and fastest way to become part of any one's circle is

1. Smile and Eye Contact

The moment you see someone, your instinct or subconscious mind makes a decision whether you like him/her. Then your conscious mind finds logical reasons to back that. We are not as logical as we appear

Hence consider a Smile and Eye Contact as cheat codes, use them all the times.

2. Body Contact - Shake hand, a pat on the back.

Again a Shake Hand or a Pat on back with colleagues go long way.

Let me give a non work example, especially for guys. If an average girl hits you in fun, when  you tease her, that relationship/friendship suddenly becomes very important.

But a Body contact has to be appropriate otherwise it would give you exact opposite results.

3. Appreciate, Appreciate and Appreciate

This is the third secret. Everyone has a circle of Ego/Self Esteem, they will open doors to people they agree with. Most people think very highly of themselves (no matter what), that is the human nature. Agreeing with specific traits of a person, results in them subconsciously opening the doors to their circles.

  Simple examples to help you out

  1. That Shirt looks good on you

  2. Someone’s all Happy today

  3. You two did a good job making that Good Looking Kid. (Always works for new parents, and believe me all babies are adorable)

  4. I really appreciate you being so upbeat despite all the trouble in your life.

  5. I dig the way you can be so consistent.

If you want to Guys, you will always find a way.

Many people who are angry about someone, will react to this advice saying I can not do “Kiss Ass”.

People who feel this has two issues

   - They have not clearly understood the advice. The advice is be true of what you appreciate. Find things that you could appreciate

   - They have people issues themselves. Their personal feeling are troubling them. They need to vent it out but not at anyone’s else expense.


Be Illogical with People, Be Logical with machines. Highly Logical People are

  1. The most boring

  2. The saddest

  3. and the most unhappiest

people in the world. People work at subconscious level. Logic does not work all that good at Subconscious level.

Be fun, open, transparent and more real. And knowing the above science you can be easily be part of anyone’s circles (if you wish so). For me this is very natural since I have practiced this for many years now.

All this becomes apparent to you if you study psychology and people around you. Easiest way is to be aware of how you feel and why you feel that, that itself is sufficient to learn psychology. Just be true to yourself when you do that, that is the trick.


Having said that, being Human’s we are not meant to be perfect. Our Perfection is in our flaws. You will not want some people to be part of your circles at all. Its fine, but understand that their is a scientific reasons for this.

Arduino Uno Self Balancing Robot

Arduino Uno Self Balancing Robot

This is an preliminary design for my Arduino Uno Powered Self Balancing Robot. This Robot is built using Arduino Uno R3 as its main micro controller.

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The concept behind the Robot is simple.

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Its got only 2 wheels. The Robot needs to balance itself constantly and navigate itself around. This is much like how a Segway works.

The Body of the Robot is made of Lego NXT blocks. It uses two "hs-311" servo motors, these are full rotation servo motors.  These are mounted on Lego Frames using HSK311CR NXT mounting kit from The concept is very simple Arduino Uno will motor whether Robot is falling forward or backward and send commands to the Servo Motors to go forward and backward to compensate. In reality the Robot is constantly falling and compensating for the fall.

Arduino relies on a 3 axis sensor to know whether its falling forward or backwards and calculates how much to move forward and backward.

Apart from this the Robot has eyes using Ultra Sonic Sensor. These enable the Robot to see few inches ahead (in theory) and know if something is blocking its way and if so, it will change its path.

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Disclaimer - The Robot is under construction, the above theory would be tested and modified as it is built and running.

Component list -

The Robot is build using

- Lego Technic/NTXT Blocks - 2 Full Rotation Servo Motors (HS-311) which plugs into Motor Shield directly - NXT Mounts for Servo Motors ((HSK311CR from  - Enables Servo motor to be put in Lego Blocks - Enables Servo motor to rotate Lego Wheels - Arduino Uno - Arduino Groove Sensor Shield for Uno - Arduino Servo Motor Shield - 3 Axis Gyroscope Sensor which works with Groove Sensor Shield - Ultra Sonic Sensor which works with Groove Sensor Shield - Temperature & Humidity Sensor which works with Groove Sensor Shield


First 3D Print using Cubify Cube (2nd Generation) 3D Printer

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The Object being printed comes with the 3D printer in an USB stick. What I loved about this Printer is you can print using USB stick. What I did not like so much is very simplified Software with not many options.

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Enjoy the Video.



Linkedin Graph Search using Neo4j - Work in Progress


Facebook Graph Search is nice, it still lacks many desirable features, but its a good start. While its good to find Friends who went to same school, or lived in same city, or have same interests, the real power of Graph Search would be when it is applied to site like Linkedin.

At the time of writing this blog, I will be honest, i have not done research of any similar tools already present for LinkedIn. I am more interested in understanding Graph Database and how to create my own Facebook Graph Search.

Special Note *

This is a work in Progress and this blog was written to capture my thinking at this point of time. So far I have written a Node Script to pull data from Linkedin and currently working on loading the data into Neo4J

Step 1 - Pull Data from LinkedIn

If we have to pull basic data about a person or his/her connection, it would appear somewhat like the following.

    firstName: 'Rohit',
    headline: 'Director of Engineering - New Technologies',
    id: 'ovX6AJPGnk',
    industry: 'Information Technology and Services',
    lastName: 'Ghatol',
    location: {
        country: {
            code: 'us'
        name: 'Houston, Texas Area'
    numConnections: 500,
    numConnectionsCapped: true,
    positions: {
        _total: 16,
        values: [{
            company: {
                id: 65662,
                industry: 'Computer Software',
                name: 'Synerzip Softech',
                size: '201-500 employees',
                type: 'Privately Held'
            id: 27449797,
            isCurrent: true,
            startDate: {
                month: 7,
                year: 2008
            summary: 'Define Technical Direction of the Company. Develop key skills for bleeding edge Technology and lead the clients/prospects on choices on Technology and Architecture Front.\n\nCreate more leaders in the Organization to expand the Company',
            title: 'Director of Engineering'
    siteStandardProfileRequest: {
        url: '**&trk=******'


Step 2 - Present Data in Graph Database

The above data is very rich, cause it had relationship with in itself. And think about now adding all your connections in that as well.

In a Graph Database like Neo4J, You have Nodes and Nodes are connected by Relationships. Both Node and Relationship can have properties.

Here is a rough representation of People, Industry, Company, 500+ Group etc in a Entity like Diagram. (Note Entity like diagrams can not represent Neo4J structure as Relationship also have properties)

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Current Progress

While the above relationship is ideal, so far I am able to load up some 30-40 connections with following relationship

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Neo4j Dashboard

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Neo4j Data Browser

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Please note while we loaded the information in Neo4J we used some indexes to make it easier for us to fetch data back.

There are two indexes for 2 different type of nodes

  1. industry - As the name suggests it indexes industry by its name
  2. person - As the name suggests it indexes a person but by its id

There is another index for relationship, we call it

  1. knowledge

In short think of this as follows in simple english (although it would have been better if we called it belongsTo. :)


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Step 3 - Run Queries on Neo4J Using Cypher

Now that partial data is loaded we can run some basic cypher queries on Neo4j. Since we don't have all relationships we can only do so much.

Basic Queries

Search for the Industry

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Advanced Queries

Search for all person belonging to "Information Technology and Services" Industry

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Search for all person belonging to "Information Technology and Services" Industry who have less than 200 connections

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Search for all person who belong to same industry which "Rohit" belongs to

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Search for all person who belong to same industry which "Rohit" belongs to and have 500+ connections

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Future Possibilities

Now if we are able to get the following graph loaded into Neo4J even for one person the numerous possibilities of traversing the graph open up. Add to it if we are able to capture information in Neo4J not from one person but from an Organization perspective, the power of Graph Search will open new frontiers.

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Remember, this is only partial data loaded from Linkedin. Imagine if we are able to load a detailed profile (breaking it down into further relationships) and augment by adding other information to this Graph e.g

  1. Blog Feeds
  2. Twitter Feeds
  3. Facebook Feeds
  4. Yammer Feeds
  5. etc

some how managing relationships between them.


Disclaimer * - While I say the above about doing this on an Organization level. This is simply a what if scenario to see what can be done. The intension of this blog post is not to call an all out war on privacy and morality :).

Any one's who name appears in this blog is result of Linkedin Connections. If any one has any objections about it, please feel free to contact me and we will works things out.